Mental Health Matters: MRHC Addresses Pressing Concerns

Mental health struggles don’t always look the same. Sometimes, it’s visible in tears and isolation. Other times, it’s hidden behind a smile or a busy schedule. Mental health affects all of us, regardless of age, background, or life circumstances, but many people suffer in silence because they think they have to.

This Mental Health Month, MRHC is challenging that narrative. We’re here to say: You’re not alone. Mental health is part of your overall health, and getting support is necessary. Whether you’re navigating the pressures of daily life, facing a major life transition, or supporting someone through a hard time, mental health plays a role in how we feel, think, and interact with others. And just like physical health, it requires care and attention.

What We’re Seeing Right Now

Based on the outcomes of the latest Community Health Needs Assessment (CHNA), mental health is one of the main concerns of our rural communities. MRHC mental health professionals are seeing rising levels of anxiety across all age groups. Anxiety can be especially isolating. It’s not just “worrying too much”; it can cause physical symptoms like trouble sleeping, fatigue, or even frequent trips to the ER, especially in older adults. Many people express feelings of hopelessness, depression, or fear that they’ll never feel “normal” again. For people experiencing those feelings, MRHC’s Mental Health Therapist, Hollie Schechinger, LISW, shares an important reminder that “that feeling is temporary, and it will go away. However, the decisions made on that feeling could be permanent.”

In older adults, grief and loss often lead to loneliness and disconnection. Life without a long-time partner can be disorienting, especially when routines, like sharing meals or attending events, suddenly shift. Changes in physical health and independence can also lead to feelings of sadness or frustration. These emotional shifts can impact physical health too, often worsening aches, pains, or illnesses that might otherwise be manageable.

Why Talking Helps and Why It Matters Who You Talk To

The stigma around mental health often prevents people from seeking help, but starting the conversation can break down those barriers. Talking to a friend is a great start, but working with a licensed therapist can be especially beneficial. A friend may offer advice based on personal experiences, but a therapist provides professional support, tools, and a confidential space to talk openly without judgment. Therapists use evidence-based techniques to help you understand your emotions and move toward healing at your own pace.

Tips for Talking to Someone Who’s Struggling

If you know someone dealing with a mental health challenge, you don’t have to have all the answers, but your approach can make a difference. Here are some helpful ways to start the conversation:

  1. Choose a quiet, comfortable place free of distractions.
  2. Ease into the conversation gently. Sometimes just saying, “I’m here” is enough.
  3. Speak calmly and stick to one topic at a time.
  4. Listen more than you speak and make eye contact.
  5. Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. Try saying, “I hear that you’re having a rough day. I understand.” Avoid saying, “You just need to change your attitude” or “Stop focusing on the negative”.
  6. Be patient. Let them open up on their terms, and don’t rush the conversation.
  7. Offer support through questions like, “How can I help?”. Avoid comments like “Just pray about it” or “Everyone feels that way sometimes.” These can make someone feel even more isolated.

What Parents Can Do

It is evident that kids and teenagers are struggling too. The best thing parents and caregivers can do is be present. “Talk with them, cry with them, listen to them, and teach them it is okay to not be okay and it will get better,” Schechinger advised. “Kids follow what their parents or guardians teach them, so encourage them to express what they are feeling and validate that, even if you do not like what they feel, they need to know it is okay to have different emotions.”

Break the Stigma

Mental health professionals at MRHC agree—one of the most important steps we can take is to break the stigma that still surrounds mental health. The team at Senior Life Solutions shared how vital it is to “help everyone understand that mental health is an important part of everyone’s health and needs to be nurtured/attended to regularly.”

Schechinger emphasized the importance of “breaking the stigma of mental health so people don’t feel like they will be judged for getting help. We need to work together to let people know that there are options for help, and they don’t have to let their mental health define their life.”

Need Help? MRHC Is Here for You              

Whether you’re seeking individual counseling, group support, or resources for a loved one, MRHC offers mental health services designed to meet you where you are.

Counseling for All Ages: Hollie Schechinger offers in-person and telehealth counseling for ages five and up. No referral needed.

Diagnosis and Treatment: Virtual appointments and medication management are available for anxiety, depression, ADHD, and more. Provider referrals are recommended but not required.

Play Therapy for Children: For kids struggling to express their emotions, play therapy helps them process trauma and build coping skills through creative play.

Senior Life Solutions: Individual and group counseling for adults over 65 dealing with depression and anxiety related to aging.

Recovery Center: Integrated care for those facing addiction and mental health issues, with medical, behavioral, and social support

If you need additional mental health information, education, or would like to discuss support, please schedule an appointment with your primary care physician by calling (712) 655-8100 to discuss treatment options. For those 65 and older, call Senior Life Solutions at (712) 655-8262. Or call the Manning Recovery Center at (712) 655-2300.

 

I’m Fine…Really, I’m Fine!

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“I’m fine…I’m really fine!” The classic and automatic response when someone asks how you’re doing, “But, how are you? Really?”

This is a common response for anyone who faces the challenges of ‘smiling’ depression. It’s appearing happy to others and smiling through the pain, keeping the inner turmoil hidden. It’s a major depressive disorder with atypical symptoms, and as a result, many don’t know someone is depressed or they don’t seek help. This often concerns those who prefer to keep their struggle private.

Unlike the usual stigma of mental health, people with smiling depression are often partnered or married, employed, and are quite accomplished and educated. They’ve usually struggled with depression and/or debilitating anxiety for years and have had some experience with therapy or medication. Many who know they are depressed don’t disclose it due to fear of discrimination from loved ones or employers. Their public, professional, and social lives are not suffering. Their façade is put together and accomplished. But behind the mask and behind closed doors, their minds are filled with thoughts of worthlessness, inadequacy, and despair.

The image many of us have of depression is inaccurate and incomplete.

Take this example for instance. There was a woman that seemed to have it all together. She was a nurse, a mother, a wife, and a sister. She was active in church and several nonprofits and was a mentor to many and loved connecting to people. Was she disheveled, withdrawn, and a downer to be around? Absolutely not. She was encouraging and thoughtful. Did anyone ever ask her how she was doing, if she was hurting, or if she needed someone to listen to her for once? No. The whole community bought in to the façade and could not see the pain hiding just under the surface.

Her life was one-of-a-kind, but unfortunately her story is not. Many who’ve felt the impact of suicide say the same thing: “I just had no idea she was suffering. She was the last person I would have expected to do this.”

How can you help?

May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and Manning Regional Healthcare Center wants to raise awareness about signs, symptoms, and risk factors regarding mental health and how to know when to seek help. Over the past few years, especially because of the pandemic, mental health challenges have skyrocketed, even close to home in the communities MRHC serves.

“Recognizing the signs and symptoms of a mental health condition is the first step to a happier, healthier life.” says, Program Director for Senior Life Solutions, Janet Brus, RN. “Understanding that mental health conditions are common and treatable is the next. We must keep working to break down the stigma against mental health to ensure people receive the help they need.”

  1. Create awareness to de-stigmatize mental illness. Pay more attention to yourself and loved ones. Ask the hard questions. Specifically, notice if a loved one begins giving away possessions (often a sign of someone considering suicide), or begins to isolate and withdraw.

If you have a friend who suddenly stops responding to phone calls or texts or cancels plans, don’t hesitate to ask them what’s going on and if they’re feeling okay. Or offer a low-key activity you can do together where they know they can be heard and are not alone.

Many people suffering from depression are perfectionists, or they don’t want to appear weak or out of control. The more we can shift the conversation to show positive role models with depression – those who advocate for therapy, exercise, medication, sleep, diet – the less shame will be associated with the depression.

  1. Understanding the risk factors for a mental health condition can be difficult when it’s your own mental health. It’s hard to see the changes. Take time to ask yourself about any changes in your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to see if this is part of a pattern caused by a situation affecting the health of your mind. Here are some questions to get you started:
    • Have things that used to feel easy started feeling difficult?
    • Does the idea of doing daily tasks, like making your bed, now feel really hard?
    • Have you lost interest in activities and hobbies you once enjoyed?
    • Do you feel irritated, possibly to the point of lashing out at those closest to you?
  1. If you think you or a loved one might be depressed, get help. On the days when your brain seems to be fighting you for your life, remember and know that you are enough, you are worthy, you are loved, and you are not alone.
  2. Find activities and pursuits that are meaningful and make you feel productive and fruitful. Reach out to someone you trust, consider contacting a therapist and let both help you flip the script running through your mind.
  3. Rather than becoming submerged in negative, self-defeating thoughts, learn self-compassion and be present and fully engaged. Mindfulness is the opposite of perfectionism in that it focuses on balance without judgment, and it’s an important set of skills that someone can learn in therapy.
  4. Above all, please don’t give up. Please don’t let depression win. You are not alone.

Around half of the people in the United States will meet the criteria for a diagnosable mental health condition at some point in their life. And an increasing number of people are beginning to see mental health for what it is: a vital component of overall health and well-being, just as important as physical health.

It may be hard to talk about your concerns, but simply acknowledging that you’re struggling is a huge step. If you are concerned about your mental health, several options are available, even locally.

If you need more mental health information, education, or would like to discuss support, please contact your primary care physician at (712) 655-2072. For those 65 and older, call Senior Life Solutions at (712) 655-8262. Or call the Manning Recovery Center at (712) 655-2300 and talk to a professional. To learn more about mental health and available resources visit mhanational.org/may.

(Article adapted from https://themighty.com/2016/05/smiling-depression-what-you-need-to-know/)